Another Discovery

Next Sunday is Mother's day. The man who made me a mother is not here to celebrate with me, not here to take the boys shopping for the little gifts, not here to help them plan for the day. I had honestly not thought ahead to this day and to how I would feel, but that is a good thing. I only figured it out last night and spent much of the evening in tears. There is no need to over think something like this. It is amazing how, up until now, I thought Mother's Day was just about our kids. Yet that wonderful miracle in our lives would not happen without our husbands. I thank God for my kids as they are reminders of Russ, but I am more grateful that Russ was in my life, so I could even become a mother!

Comments

[Conniecrafter]

Time to think of new traditions to share with your little guys, maybe ask them what they think you should all do, I am happy that you have them in your life :)

[Flora]

Dear Julie I found your blog while browsing and I am so blessed to have found you, You are truly an inspiration.
May you find peace and all the love and devotion you so faithfully show in the name of our lord, you are what we all need to be like...
Blessings,Flora

[Terry Schultz]

Hope every day is a Happy Mother's Day for you and your boys!
Blessings ♥♥♥

[Rose]

Julie, I do understand how you feel not thru death but thru divorce. I too had a young son and I wanted him to learn that it was important to think of others that are important to him. So I gave him $10.00 and told hime to buy me what ever he wanted. I took him shopping and just followed behind. One year I got 10 skeins of DMC in a brown paper bag. Another year I got a lipstick. I found out he lost the first one and he went back into the store crying and the clerk gave him another one. Kids are wonderful but when you don't have a partner you become Mother and Father, as I am sure you are finding out. My thoughts are with you. You will become a stronger person with higher esteem by the time those boys become men. Keep your chin up.

[Bev J.]

So sorry, Julie.

[Queen Mary]

Julie, God Bless you and the boys!

[Sylvia/Georgia]

Thank you so much for sharing your heartaches and your joys with us. I haven't been down the road you are traveling now (thank God!), but I have friends on that journey, and you have helped me so much to be a better friend to them.

[Evette K. Ciampo]

You are so right. Russ was indeed greatly loved and greatly needed for your being a mom. He will be smiling down on you this coming Sunday and all the days. Another hurdle to get through sweetie and you are so blessed with your two boys that the day will be warm and loving for you with them there. As well as Russ' spirit always with you. My prayers always go out to you and the boys. Please know how much we love your creativity and YOU!!!! Hugs and love.

[Tammy Dunlap]

My heart goes out to you, that is a hard thing to deal with. Your still a mother so try and celebrate with your special little boys, you can make it a holiday for celebrating the time you had with Russ.

[Rayne Chan]

Julie, your post have brought me to tears again and I want you to know that I'm thinking of you this mother's day and I pray that God will continue to give you strength in your daily life, things that I take for granted sometimes. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be for you but you are a wise woman and I believe God has a great plan for you and your boys. Thank you for reminding me to appreciate my husband more on Mother's Day since he is the reason why I became a mother. I now have a new perspective of Mother's Day and I am grateful for that. Big hugs and lots of love.

[Kandis]

Very well said. Every mother's day I send my MIL a card. Thanking her for raising such a wonderful son to be my husband and for giving me the honor of being a Mom to her grandboys. Have a blessed Mother's Day full of hugs, giggles and smiles.

[Patti J.]

Julie, once again, I sit here with my tissues, and as I sniffle and grieve with you, I am also looking forward to hearing about your Mother's Day this year. As with so many things this last several months, you are going to take those lemons and make a wonderful lemonade, and we out here in blogland, will be in awe of you and your strength and creativity. I'm praying for you, and think about you always. Hugs and blessings, dear friend.

[bonnie weiss]

Your boys are Russ' legacy ...celebrate the day with him in spirit and make new memories with your boys to carry with them into their future.

[Lynne Hurlburt]

You and the boys are in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs n' Stuff, Lynne

[Kay Capps]

Your posts always have such a meaning to me and reach into my own heart. I miss my husband everyday and know alot of what you are going through. It DOES get better but they will be many "1st's" to go through for awhile.Perhaps a close relative or friend could take the boys shopping if the boys would like. Know that I am there for you along with many of your other family members and friends as we hold your hand all the way! Hugs Kay

[Sharon]

Julie, I know your pain and anguish. It is not an easy road you are walking; the first year is so hard. You and your sons will need to make new traditions. Use this Mother's Day to celebrate what you've had and what God has for your future. Make a new tradition; let the boys be a part of planning how to celebrate the day. They'll be thinking about it too. You are loved so much. Keeping you in prayer....

[Becky Jo]

Julie, I have no idea in reality what you are going thru. I have always told my children don't go by the past and what you think should be done - start your own traditions. This is now what you must do with your boys. Start a special Mother's Day tradition that is just yours. Something special for you and the boys to do. It won't be the same, but it will be special for you just the same. Big Hugs!!

[Terry Molineux]

Julie....I cannot pretend to say I know what you are going through..I can't but please know that you and your boys are in my thoughts and prayers daily! I think of you and talk of you often to my family and friends and I always tell them how strong you are and what a great mother you are! All the firsts you've been doing that I know if I were in your shoes I could never do....!!! I often bring my husband in the office and read your posts to him and he sees me in tears...and wonders why and when I read your posts he tears up. You are a great & strong person hold on to that and the memories of Russ and I know you will get through it.....the first year of firsts are going to hurt.

Ask the boys what they would like to have done if Russ was here and do it with them....it will make you feel better. Know I am with you always!

Hugs & Kisses,
Terry~~

[Anna/Oma]

((((((((((Julie))))))))))

[Carri McMullen]

Growing up as the young child of a widowed mother, I remember Mom allowing each of the three of us ten dollars to to purchase something to show her what she meant to us. We were allowed in the large Zellers by ourselves with a lecture of stay together. Some times we bought three seperate things and sometimes we pooled our money, but more importantly was the excitement we had on Mother's Day morning to see how happy our choices would make her. We were encouraged to make cards on Mother's day (I think now that this was to keep us busy) and she even let us help make her dinner. It was a fun day for us and I hope she enjoyed it too. On Father's day we spent time sharing memories of dad, but not until we had presented a letter to Mom (again she encouraged this)about how we appreciated her doing Dad's chores and taking care of us. This was also a good time to have Dad's favorite meal and Mom would tease that she was enjoying it so much that she might be turning into a dad. I spent my childhood from 9-18 without a father and I have many happy memories and a lot of admiration for the lady that stepped up to fill all rolls of a Mom and Dad. You are so lucky that Russ left you the gift of those wonderful boys (young men), but you know that.

[Colleen Gurgul]

So true none of us would be mothers without our hsubands. So glad you have your boys as a reminder of the great husband god blessed you with.

[Sandy Basso]

Oh that first year of all those firsts that you have to go through. It's so rough and heart rendering. Enjoy your day next Sunday with those two little guys that you do mother. When my husband was away aboard ship, I would celebrate by asking each of my three sons if daddy were here, what do you think you would do for me for Mother's Day. We would write them down and decide on a few things within reason and we would go out togehter to buy me something, like a bag of Turtles, my favorite candy, and one red rose. I know it's not the same, but it sure does help and it also sets a precidence for them as they grow older to honor their mother on this special day. I know this is rough, but within time that pain does get lesser, but those memories, they last a lifetime, thank God. Praying for you always.

[Kerry]

Thinking of you and the many daily events your facing thru your loss. You and your boys are still in my prayers OXOXOXOXO