I am alive !! Thanks for all the messages that I have been receiving lately, wondering and praying that I am Ok. I truly am a grateful recipient of those! It has been a real adjustment for me, to move to a totally new province, with a new husband, new school for the boys, new church, etc. It has really thrown off my usual schedule.
In 18 days, it will be 2 years since Russ has passed. In just over a month, I will have been married for a year, while only knowing John for a year and 2 months - YES YOU READ THAT RIGHT !! I know people have been wanting the story, so here it is !!
I had an old school friend, J, whose sister, R, wanted to set me up with a guy. This was about 8 months after Russ went home, and I was all "NO WAY, it has not been a year, I need to grieve." So, R let it go, except she had a nephew that would not ... lol. The good thing is, they lived 10 hours away, and could not force me to meet him.
Well, I ended up going there to visit one of my best friends, JW, on the last weekend before school started, This was August 26-29, 2011. So R and her nephew, M, say that we should at least do supper together, since I had not seen them for awhile, and would I mind if John came? No problem, I said, and went out with the boys along.
Here you can see how we sat at the table. I made sure to sit on the same side as him, at the opposite end, so we would not have to talk. I was going to show everyone that they could not set me up with him. The only words I really said to him that night was, "Hi" when I got there, and "Bye, nice meeting you." I talked to everyone else, and basically completely ignored the poor guy the rest of the time. I felt so bad, so I sent him a message on facebook saying " Sorry we didn't get to talk more, maybe next time." (Though never intending to follow through with that ... lol). His reply was, "Well, here is my cell number, text me ..." Me "UMMM NO, here is mine, text me."
He did ... the next day ! We texted for a whole week, all this time, I was on my knees praying all night long. I could not figure out the feelings that were rising in me. I knew that biblically, they were not wrong, but I was scared. I finally called him on September 4th, and we hit it off, talking for over 8 hours. After a week of praying and restless sleep, I slept like a baby that night. I had such peace, but that scared me even more!!
I woke up the next morning to a text from my realtor, saying " Wishing you God's Highest and Best !" I was like "What?", and he texted back " I just thought God wanted me to tell you that today." My realtor, are you kidding me? This was really starting to freak me out, so I went to talk to my mom. I told her what I might be feeling and she said 3 things that stuck in my mind.
- Where there is great suffering there is great blessing
- God's timing is rarely our timing.
- It Doesn't Matter What Anyone Else Thinks If This Is What GOD Wants For You !!
John and I talked alot that rest of that week, up to 6 hours a day. And we really wanted to meet in person, for real. So, I asked my Mom and Dad to watch the boys that weekend, and I went to Edmonton to actually meet John. We met up, basically for the first time, on September 9, and got engaged THE NEXT DAY !!
We had spent so much time talking, and honestly when you are in our shoes, you cut out small talk. Every conversation had meaning, and we both laid everything out on the line, so it just felt right. There were only few people who knew what was happening, and they stood behind us in prayer all weekend, and kept us accountable. I appreciate them for their support, so much, because after that it it seemed like a lot of fighting for approval.
We got a lot of backlash, and yes, while it was a shock that I was moving on, WE WERE DOING NOTHING WRONG. I was not married anymore, Russ was gone. It was even something I had to work through, because it almost felt as though I was cheating on Russ. People also were worried that I had gotten engaged without the boys knowing him. Well, that had been my plan all along (not the engaged part), but I did not want my boys to go through the up and downs of me dating. And I understand their thoughts ... " What if the boys did not like him?" ... but I knew that if GOD could awake the love in me for him in such a short amount of time, the boys would be a cake walk!! And they were. He met them the next weekend, and since then, he is their hero. He is such an amazing father to them. So, we got married 2 months later.
I will not say that it has all been easy, but no marriage is. If you want to stay together, you work at it, but I can say that it was absolutely God's plan for us to get married. My in-laws (Russ' family) love him, and he has become a part of them as well. I am so blessed, I have nothing else to say about it, except that my God is an awesome God !!
Have fun and happy stamping,